Weekend

20 before 20, #12 & #13 –

Artist: How to Dress Well
Song: “Repeat Pleasure”

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What a truly wonderful weekend this has been. With only three weeks left of class, and the sun finally staying to play with us, everyone I know has bee in a better mood. People have more energy and want to stay outside instead being cooped up in a library.

This weekend I also got to experience two fun, new things that I can’t wait to share with y’all.

#12 — friend’s art show –

It’s so satisfying to see the diversity in my friends’ different passions. One of my good friends, Erin, is a senior this year graduating with a degree in Photography. Since it’s her last month here, she has a capstone thesis on display at a gallery in Knoxville.

The show opened on Friday night, and I went along with two of my best pals, Jordyn and Kathleen.

Me, Jordyn, Kathleen

Me, Jordyn, Kathleen

Erin spent last studying in Paris, and her exhibition this month highlights different snapshots of her life abroad.

These are some of the photos from her show –

Barcelona

La Tour Eiffel

Louvre

Barcelona

I’m so proud of my friend for all of her hard work. Her creativity and perspective inspire me to look at my world differently.

The night was full of special time with friends, beautiful photos, and just a little bit of bread, wine, and cheese.

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If the weekend had climaxed at the art show I would’ve called the weekend a success.

But last night some of my friends had a fancy, outdoor jazz part in the lot behind their house.

#13 — fancy outdoor party –

A little Marvin Gaye, a little Etta James, and a whole lot of dancing – that’s what my Saturday night consisted of.

Obviously my friends and I also had photo shoots –

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Courtney, me, Mamie

Mamie, me, Claire

me n' my sweet angels

me n’ my sweet angels

I loved dancing the night away with my pals, and doing something out of the norm.

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This weekend reminded me that I am beyond lucky to be where I am in my life, and I am so thankful to all my friends and family.

- B

for comments & inquiries, please e-mail me at brycelbeyer@gmail.com

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Friday

20 before 20, #11 –

Artist: Hozier
Song: “Work Song”

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Spring break was a relaxing and joyous time full of new experiences. Unfortunately, returning to Knoxville means refocusing on school and my responsibilities. Immediately upon my return I had an exam and a midterm and a group project and online assignments.

But on a positive note, I also had an internship interview when I came back to Knoxville!

So, number 11 on my “20 before 20″ list is…

getting an internship –

I got the internship!

The interview was at a local Knoxville boutique, called “Reruns.”

Reruns is a fashion consignment store in the heart of Knoxville, and I was interviewing for a Social Media internship.

As a member of the Public Relations Student Society of America (PRSSA), I have access to information about different PR internships in the area. In February I got an e-mail about this particular internship, and immediately sent in my résumé and a personal statement.

After a few calls back and forth about the position, we set up an interview at the end of March.

I got an e-mail two days later offering me the internship, and I start Monday, April 7th!

I’ll be helping take photos for the store’s website, Etsy, Ebay, and Instagram. I will also be helping with their Facebook and Pinterest, as well as writing newsletters!

The entire process of getting an internship has been so cool. The position seems so tailor-made to my skill set and interests, it’s impossible to doubt God’s hand in the whole situation.

Back in February, when I had the idea for “20 before 20″ I wrote “get an internship” on my list, thinking it unlikely. But it actually happened, and I’m anxious to see what I’ll learn from the experience!

- B

For comments & inquiries, please e-mail me at brycelbeyer@gmail.com

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Friday

20 before 20, #2-10 –

Artist: Laura Marling
Song: All My Rage

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It has been far too long since I sat down to share what I’ve been up to!

Never fear, I am still working long and hard on my “20 before 20″ list. If you’re not sure what that is, I am trying to do 20 new things before I turn 20 on April 18th. This is going to be a mass post, because I’ve crossed quite a few things off of my list.

#2 — woke up to see the sunrise

Obviously I’ve seen a sunrise before, but for the first time to my knowledge I set my alarm in order to see the beginning of a new day.

Sunrise

It was fantastic to look out my bedroom window and see the sun’s first rays welcoming the day. (I will say that waking up that early was terrible and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to do it again.)

#3 — spent time at the park instead of doing homework

I love spending time with my friends, and put a huge priority on time with people. It was the first truly nice and warm day of the year, with no clouds and a smiling sun.

My best friend Coley decided to come with me to run some errands, but I decided we needed to take some time away from doing any sort of school work and enjoy time together outside.

Coley eating greek yogurt being cute

Coley eating greek yogurt being cute

It was such a wonderful way to enjoy the day, and was a memory I don’t want to forget.

#4 — explored Knoxville on my own

Tennessee riverfront

A few days after Coley and I went to the park, I found myself itching to explore it some more. Usually I wouldn’t feel comfortable going and doing something alone, but I was just so happy about life that it didn’t seem like that big of a deal.

I ended up going to the Tennessee River waterfront and loved seeing sand and driftwood and footprints.

#5 — spontaneous road trip

This week has been my Spring Break, and I needed to do something other than stay in Tennessee. I was feeling antsy, and asked one of my best friends, Sarah, if she would want to go on a road trip.

It was only two weeks prior to leaving that we were committed to going, and it wasn’t until the night before that we decided what time we were leaving.

pre trip selfie

Had to get a pre-road trip selfie

#6 & #7 — visit a new city and a new state

For our road trip we decided to go visit our friend, Isabel, in Charleston, South Carolina! Somehow I’ve never been to South Carolina, so I was able to cross two things off of my list by going!

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Isabel goes to school at the College of Charleston, so we were able to stay right in the heart of the city.

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Sarah & Isabel

We had an incredible time, and it’s always fun to see friends in their element.

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Just being able to walk around the city was magical.

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The architecture is beautiful, and the city was vibrant. I fell in love with Charleston, and hope to live there one day.

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Blue Bicycle Books

#8 — eat out for every meal

I’ve gone on quite a few road trips in my day. Most of them would be to visit family, so we would eat in.

In Charleston, it was just three pals experiencing city life, and we made it our goal to try Charleston cuisine at each opportunity we had. Although it was expensive, I’m happy that I got to try so many delicious restaurants.

The only sad thing was not being able to eat more places! We talked about so many restaurants for each meal, but time was our enemy!

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Crêpe with friend egg, avocado, pico de gallo, cheddar and sour cream

One of my favorite meals was this crêpe from Queen Street Grocery. It was unbelievable delicious, and gave me a newfound appreciation for savory crêpes.

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latte and chocolate croissant

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with her mocha and chocolate croissant

This latte and chocolate croissant combo from Kudu was to die for. We also ate at a few restaurants on King Street and near campus.

#9 — get in the atlantic ocean

Seeing as the Atlantic ocean is the inspiration for my blog, you would think I would have been there at some point in my life.

If I have, I don’t remember it.

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playin’ in the sand

The weather in Charleston was dismal during our visit, until the last afternoon. As soon as the sun peeked through the clouds, we rushed to Folly Beach, and had a quick photo shoot.

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I didn’t get to actually swim in the Atlantic, but putting our feet in seemed good enough.

#10 — reconnect with a friend

Isabel isn’t my only friend that goes to school in College of Charleston. Another friend also goes there, and I hadn’t seen her in almost two years.

We went to middle and high school together, and after college we drifted apart, as friends naturally do. But I was able to see her on Wednesday night, and it was just so fun to see her and her life– especially since I hadn’t in such a long time.

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So I’m halfway done with my list!

I have less than a month to try ten new things, and I’m anxious to see what else I’ll do!

If you have any suggestions, please let me know.

Until next time,

- B

For comments or inquiries, please e-mail me at brycelbeyer@gmail.com

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Monday

20 before 20, #1 –

Artist: Wet
Song: ‘No Lies’

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Last time I posted about getting out of my comfort zone more before leaving my teenage years forever.

On Saturday I did my first thing on my list with some friends and

stayed in to cook dinner rather than going out –

At the beginning of Saturday morning I knew I wanted to do something different and creative. I texted my friend Mamie (who took all of the pictures in this post) about doing something out of the norm.

We decided it would be fun to do dinner together, but instead of just going to a restaurant and doing the same-old, same-old, we made it our goal to cook an entrée and dessert for ourselves.

After heading to Trader Joe’s and picking up our ingredients we came back to my house and listened to music and cooked dinner.

Actually eating vegetables

Actually eating vegetables

We bought asparagus, sun-dried tomatoes, pesto, and mozzarella for a delicious pasta dish.

In Process

In Process

We found both recipes on Pinterest, and had a blast just being in the kitchen. The dish itself was super easy; the most difficult step was roasting asparagus, which isn’t saying much.

Dinner time

Dinner time

As we sat down with our bowls and glasses of red wine, I decided to show Mamie and our friend Courtney a show I started this semester that has become one of my favorites: Girls.

Let’s just say that now they’re as hooked as the rest of us.

Thankfully the night wasn’t over after dinner. In order to fully complete this goal we had to eat a full meal, and that involved a damn good dessert.

Dessert

These “Browned Butter Blondies with Sea Salt Caramels” changed my life. They were also super easy to make, and even easier to eat. The vanilla ice cream with the gooey chocolate blew my mind.

I’m so glad that I was able to spend my Saturday night creating something! Food always seems to taste better when I make it myself, and it was fun to share that with close friends.

Making the food ourselves allowed us to chat and sing and dance, which we wouldn’t have been able to do at a regular old restaurant.

If you’re interested in making these recipes, here are the links:

Until I can cross another thing off my list,

- B

For comments and inquiries, please e-mail me at brycelbeyer@gmail.com

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Wednesday

discomfort zone –

Artist: Schoolboy Q, Kendrick Lamar
Song: Collard Greens

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When December ends, finding excitement in life requires a little extra work for some reason. I don’t know if it’s been the bipolar Tennessee weather and cold, or the end of another pristine holiday season, but 2014 has felt very one-note.

It’s easy for me to get caught in routines, living each day almost in a trance.

In order to get out of the regularity of class, homework, meetings, and extra-curriculars, last night one of my best friends and I took a night off to grab dinner at Tomato Head in Knoxville. Afterwards we grabbed some chocolate and coffee at the fittingly name Coffee & Chocolate.

champagne truffle

champagne truffle

After getting treats, we decided to visit Urban Outfitters and be trendy. Jordyn and I are both bibliophiles and although we loved looking at the clothes and records, the best part was browsing through the table of books.

All of the books we picked up seemed to express a similar theme: get out of your comfort zone, do things you normally wouldn’t, and live.

I am a traditionalist who prefers a routine to spontaneity (even though too much can be stifling). I like to know what I’m doing and to see my friends and stay on the same path.

The books we looked at gave the reader tasks to accomplish to break out of the ordinary, and they really had me thinking.

I turn 20 in 53 days. In these last days as a teenager I’ve decided I want to do 20 new things. I don’t exactly know what I’ll do, but if I do something new every two or three days I will be able to do it.

I want to be uncomfortable. I want to do things that I would normally shy away from. I want to go new places, talk to new people, and try new things.

Until next time,

- B

For comments or inquiries, please e-mail me at brycelbeyer@gmail.com

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Friday

what does he mean? social media politics in the gay community –

Artist: Idina Menzel
Song: Let It Go

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Legend has it that there was a time when people could find love without technology. Some people would be set up on blind dates by friends that happened to be perfect matches. Others would meet people on campus without having any prior knowledge about them. People would even magically meet each other and known within 30 minutes that they had found their future spouse. Well, that’s how my parents met.

With the introduction of the smartphone and social media, people have become more connected, but less intentional in their attempts to meet people. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, SnapChat, Tindr, Grindr, et al. have ruined any possibility of meeting someone the “old-fashioned way.” However, from an outsiders perspective, it seems that straight people have a better chance of meeting the people without the internet.

Enter Bryce.

As a gay man on a southern college campus, it is not easy to find other gay men. While there have been times I’ve had classes with other gay guys, they’ve never been my “type.”

However, through Facebook/Instagram/SnapChat/Twitter it is possible to connect with other people like me. But even when you know who someone is, how do you know if they’re interested to you?

SO, here’s my guide to social media interactions in the gay community.

***Obviously I did extensive primary research to get this information***

1.) Facebook –

Finding someone on Facebook is fairly rare. In fact, Facebook has become more important as a resource to back check a guy: to see what he’s like, if he has good pictures, that kind of thing.

  • However, if a guy ever adds you, there is a good chance that he’s into you. Especially if you’ve never met, or only met a few times.
  • If he likes a profile picture that you just put up, he may have a crush. BUT, if he likes an old profile picture that means he was stalking you, and that means he digs you.
  • If he likes random pictures of you, he likes you.
  • If he ever messages you or vice versa you might as well date, let’s be honest.

2.) Twitter –

  • If a cute guy follows you on Twitter, don’t ask questions and let it happen. If he seems funny/interesting/thoughtful follow back.
  • If he ever favorites your tweets he wants to remind you he exists, but if he ever retweets a tweet he is showing that he’s interested in you as well.
  • Replying to tweets of his can come off as weird/desperate. WE’VE ALL BEEN THERE THOUGH. IT’S OK.

3.) Instagram –

Instagram is the great connector of the gay community, in my opinion. You can see how a boy sees the world, and, more importantly, himself.

**WARNING: If he only posts pictures of himself, he is insecure/looking for attention/obsessed with himself **

However, this doesn’t mean you necessarily should run away: don’t pass complete judgement without knowing him.

  • If a guy you don’t know ever follows you on Instagram you must immediately check his profile to see mutual interests and friends. If you are interested follow your little heart out.
  • After following each other there is a strange period of time where you both see who will be the first to like the other’s photos. If he likes yours first, you have the upper hand. But the opposite will be true if you like his pictures first.
  • If he follows any of your close girlfriends and likes their pictures that you’re in, he definitely likes you and is trying to get your attention.
  • If boy comments on your pictures he wants your attention.
  • With Instagram direct being a thing now, if he were to ever send you a message he wants to marry you, apparently.

4.) Tumblr –

Tumblr is a blogging site that is somewhat melodramatic. It’s a very strange community of people, but they’re very accepting of others, which is great. I actually know a few guys who have met through Tumblr and stayed friends/a couple.

A lot people prefer to keep their Tumblr’s private because they are so open with their thoughts and feelings on them.

  • If you have a Tumblr and a guy finds it, he did some intensive investigations. Take note of that and know that he could be going back in your history and learning all about you.

5.) SnapChat –

SnapChat is ridiculous, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore the implications of communicating with a guy through it.

  • If you know the guy in real life, and he adds you, it may be harmless. What matters is whether you send snaps to each other.
  • If you send occasional SnapChats to him, and he doesn’t answer, he is either trying to play it cool, or  he may just not be into you.
  • If he sends you pictures, it’s more likely that he is interested. However, if he initiates conversation over SnapChat he’s definitely into you.
  • Same goes for if he responds to your story or a picture that was obviously sent to the masses.

There is an app for gay men called Grindr which allows you to find guys close by.

I REFUSE. I don’t want inappropriate pictures sent to me, thanks.

All of these tips should be take with a grain of salt. Obviously anytime another guy makes connection through social media it doesn’t mean he’s interested. . . but sometimes.

And all jokes aside, while it is harder to find other gay guys close by, it doesn’t mean you should give up hope.

A relationship would probably move along more authentically if you meet in real life, which I know because I’m a relationship expert.

But if you do have a crush on someone through social media, make the first step to bring the relationship to the real world!

You never know what can happen.

- B

For comments & inquiries, please e-mail me at brycelbeyer@gmail.com

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Monday

coca cola super bowl commercial –

Artist: The Mowgli’s
Song: San Francisco

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The Super Bowl was yesterday, if you couldn’t tell. While some people actually watch it for the football, there are still those of us that watch for the commercials and the halftime show.

First of all, as good as Bruno Mars was, nothing can be better than Beyoncé’s flawless performance last year.

But today, I wanted to share one of my favorite commercials from last night, from Coca Cola –

There has been controversy about this commercial because an American was sung in any language other than English.

Besides being incredibly ignorant, that response to this commercial just makes me sad, because it shows a complete lack of understanding and appreciation for the diversity of our nation.

I loved hearing “America the Beautiful” in so many different languages, and seeing all different kinds of people in America. I definitely also appreciated seeing a gay couple shown in a positive light during such a politically volatile time for LGBT couples.

I found the Coke’s message inspiring, and found myself moved by the challenge to celebrate diversity. Whatever ad agency put this together is genius, and I couldn’t be more proud to live in a time when this is sort of message is shown to the masses.

Diversity is beautiful, so let’s celebrate it.

- B

For comments or inquiries, please e-mail me at brycelbeyer@gmail.com

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